I'm approaching the one year I allotted to this dating experiment. My one year is up in 12 days. Within the next week, I'll have to provide a summary of thoughts and insights. I'll just have to find some insight between now and then. I will start with everything is a learning experience. I'm a believer that if you stop learning, you die. More on that later, but for now I'll apply it to how people handle stress.
Stress rears its ugly head in the life of everyone. How a person handles stress is the key. Me? I'm a work hard until I carb-binge, then crawl under the covers and nap until it's over kind of girl. I realize this week (who am I kidding- this month) while working on new eating habits, I'm still working on this. Not so much in the mastery category, especially when the grocery store offered a cruel special on ice cream. Buy a pint of Ben and Jerry's on sale and get a pint of their premium ice cream for free. Danger, danger. It was a cruel and delicious offer. Carrots just don't do it. I've eaten about three pounds of apples a week to no avail. I've reached for a handful of dry cereal on more than one occasion. And it's Kashi cereal, not even yummy cereal. Imagine a handful of puffs, fiber twigs and grain sticks. Nothing soothes like peanut butter on graham crackers. And if you put on enough peanut butter, you can't tell they are low fat grahams. I digress. I'm learning that Jose is a withdraw into a shell kind of guy. Work upheaval has him in turtle mode. I don't even know what the whole story is exactly at this point. I just know he hasn't talked about it. I've asked what would help him. I've asked if he wants to talk about it. I've asked if I should just stop asking questions. So that's the route I'm taking. It's hard for me. I want to nurture, and make it better, and do nice things so he's not thinking about it. We'll see how long this takes. As I've mentioned before, patience is a virtue. Just not one of mine.
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